I have been away from the office for quite some time; almost two weeks, in fact. Of course, there was the long, almost-one-week-break with the Chinese New Year, Awal Muharram and Federal Territory Day holidays, but just the week before that, I have already been away from the office.
No, I did not go on vacation. It was for work, but I guess I did use some of the time to have some fun and enjoy myself (but not relax; no time for that). We went to Bukit Tinggi, Pahang. It is supposed to be a place where we go for some peace, quiet and relaxation. None of that for us, but lots of fun and entertainment, especially from the participants of the course.
I went along with four other colleagues from my office. We were organising a course to help improve English communicative skills for our officers at state level. Finally, I got to meet some of the officers after almost four months just hearing their voices and communicating with them over the phone.
I’m not here to talk about their English skills, as that would a very LONG thing to talk about, but just let me say one thing, for Malay men, their English is not bad. And some of them really impressed me with their willingness and enthusiasm to learn.
The participants we invited were a colourful batch. There was supposed to be at least thirty of them, but only eighteen turned up (there were reasons, I guess..), but the eighteen who came, were very interesting people. There was just one Malay lady among the eighteen. The rest were all Malay men; married with wife and children, except for one solitary single male.
The organising committee was made up of the five of us from our unit. Two men, married, and three ladies, single; including myself. So, I guess you can imagine a bit what it must have been like when three single ladies (the other solitary lady participant not included, as she is married) were put together with eighteen married men and one not married guy. And please bear in mind, they are all Malay; ranging from between late twenties to early fifties.
I must say that it was enlightning experiencing first-hand the flirting techniques these men exposed us to. Some were quite seasoned veterans at it, while others were still learning the skills. It was very interesting to observe their antics and even more joining them at it.
I’ve always wondered how some women can actually get themselves involved with married men, and now I understand why. And I’m not just talking about single ladies here. I’m actually mainly referring to the married ladies with a husband and children at home.
Men and women who work in constant proximity can actually start out as just flirting and joking around in innocence. However, if it is over quite a long period of time, and quite repeatedly over the duration of a year, it can turn into something more serious. In simple words, become a flagrant affair.
I was actually keen on going to Bukit Tinggi because I really wanted to meet these men who I know some of my married colleagues are having a special relationship with. The ladies don’t actually tell the whole world that they are having an affair (how far the affair has gone to, I’ve yet to ask), and neither do the men, but you can somehow understand the picture if you hang around them for just long enough and ask just the right questions.
I wanted to meet and get to know these married so-called-family Malay men and how it is possible that these married ladies can actually get involved with them. Before I got to met them in person, I already had a prejudgemental view of them. However, I did try to keep my mind and also my eyes and ears open for a more enlightning understanding of them.
If you meet them for the first time, some of them can seem a bit cocky and stuck-up. Some were outright gatal from the start. They did not beat around the bush. But these men are not the ones you need to worry about. Once they step over the boundaries, you will somehow know how to manage them. And they know and pick up quite fast when you start sounding sarcastic and off-putting towards them. So, they will actually lay off and cool it for a while before coming back to you with a more professional attitude and approach.
It is the sedate, elegant, seemingly educated and fatherly male figure that you actually have to keep your eyes open for. They are not good looking, definitely no. However, they seem to have this charisma and aura that they carry with them that makes you become impressed with them after talking to them for a few times. They know just the right things to say and the right things to do, so that you won’t feel put off by them. It’s almost like they have mastered the art of chatting up and picking up ladies, single and married alike.
My friends and I enjoyed ourselves trying to make them feel as if we have baited their hook. But we tried not to laugh too much, just in case we actually do. These men can be pretty impressive at times.
One thing I can say is that, these married Malay men don’t seem to prefer women like me, or just me, that much. I notice that they very much prefer the well-endowed ladies; and my two friends with me are very much so. These men seem to prefer ladies with impressive humps, which by the way, I’m sorry to say, mua can’t brag too much about. And some ladies think that being thin can make them catch all the guys! Thin is good, ladies, but not skinny.
Oh well, men will always be men (at least the straight ones) and go for the humps we, ladies are blessed with. So for those who are not blessed with them, forget the married men!;-) And go for the ones not taken yet! But then again, the ones who are not taken are either gays and are not eligible, or complete assholes!!!=P Life can be sad at times…
Another thing I noticed is that these men seem to go for the ladies who can be very manja one, which again, I’m not. Help me if ever I become perempaun Melayu terakhir. Makcik mantap can lor… Not too say that my friends are the manja type, but if they want to portray that image, they can be very successful at it.
And they love ladies with tudung, that’s for sure. Me, I’m just a toy they fool around when their bigger toys are not around. Maybe they are just intimidated by how not perempuan Melayu terakhir I sound and look like.=P Oh well, I’m happy being the way I am. If they don’t like it, then they can **** off.;-) There are more availabe perempuan Melayu terakhir they can find. I just hope they got what they bargained for and not more than what they can take. At least I’m me and not pretending to be someone I’m not. What you see is what you get.
Anyway, the Bukit Tinggi escapade has left me with a better understanding of how the minds of married Malay men work. I think it requires further study but I’m sure I’ll be getting education in the future more than I bargained for. Just get ready for the ride!!!
